Since getting engaged onThe Golden Bacheloretteseason 1, Joan Vassos and Chock Chapple have been building their lives together, but they may be struggling to blend their large families. 62-year-old Joan has four adult children and 60-year-old Chock has two of his own. They’re both very close to their children and were committed to blending their families together, but they may have discovered that it’s more challenging than they expected. Getting engaged later in life is exciting, but it presents its own unique challenges, and bringing families together is definitely an issue.

Joan and Chock both had full lives before meeting each other. Joan was married to John Vassos for 32 years - they had four children together before he died in 2021. Their children are all adults now, and Joan even has three grandchildren. Chock was married to Heather Chapple for 12 years, and they had two children together before they divorced. Chock has two grown-up children of his own. From the moment they got engaged, Joan and Chock talked about wanting to bring their families together. Family is important to both of them.

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Since leavingThe Golden Bacheloretteseason 1, Joan and Chock have been dedicated to getting to know each other better, and have spent almost every single day together. Soon after going public with their relationship, they brought their families together for the holidays. Though Thanksgiving and Christmas seemed to go well for the combined families, Joan and Chockhaven’t posted about any additional family gatherings sincethen. Read on for signs Joan and Chock are still struggling to bring their families together.

8Chock Didn’t Attend Joan’s Birthday Dinner

The 33rd Anniversary Of Joan’s 29th Birthday

Joan and Chock have been together a lot since leavingThe Golden Bachelorette, which makesChock’s absence from her recent birthday dinnermore notable.Joanposted Instagram photos and footage from her birthday celebration, and Chock was conspicuously missing from the pictures. Several ofJoan’s children and grandchildrengathered around her as she celebrated her birthday. Joan joked it was the 33rd anniversary of her 29th birthday, and she even blew out a “29” candle. Though it’s possible Chock was just busy with work, it could also mean the event was for family only.

7Joan’s Comment Explained

She Directly Addressed Their Family Drama

Falling in love later in life is a blessing, but it also presents unique challenges. After Thanksgiving,Joan and Chock posted holiday photos. Though their first family gathering seemed to go well, Joan and Chock went on to make some comments about their families that raised eyebrows. In December,Joanposted a clip on Instagram of her and Chock discussing their relationship. During the clip, they talk about blending their families, whichJoan confesses has been a “little harder right now.“Joan and Chock didn’t get into details, but they were obviously both pained by the matter.

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It isn’t clear yet if allof Joan and Chock’s children are supportiveof the relationship. Some of their kids could be concerned about their parents getting so serious with people they barely know. After all, Joan and Chock met in June 2024, which wasn’t that long ago. Some ofJoan’s children were concerned that their late father was being replaced. Chock assured Joan’s children that he had no intention of trying to replace John, and that he actually wanted to honor him.

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DuringThe Golden Bacheloretteseason 1 finale, Joan’s children flew to meet Chock in Tahiti. During their meeting, they told him that they didn’t want him to try to replace their father. Chockassured Joan’s children that he had no intention of trying to replace John, and that he actually wanted to honor him. His response seemed to mollify their fears to some extent, but it remains to be seen if they got past the concern entirely.

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5Chock Missed Another Birthday Event

Joan Attended Her Son’s Girlfriend’s Birthday On Her Own

Joan’s dinner wasn’t the only event Chock missed.Joanrecently traveled to Philadelphia to celebrate her son’s girlfriend’s birthday, andThe Golden Bacheloretteposted an album of photos to Instagram. Once again, Chock was missing from all the photos. Though he could have been there anyway, it’sdoubtful that Joan would fail to include a photoof him. Hopefully, it’s just a matter of scheduling, as Chock runs a successful insurance agency in Kansas.Joan and Chock are a great couple, so it would be sad if they couldn’t make the relationship work due to family drama.

4The Holidays Were Their Last Gathering

Will They Ever Get Together Again?

During Thanksgiving and Christmas,Joan and Chock’s familieswere able to put any drama aside and get together for the holidays.Joanand Chock posted Christmas photos of the happy family on Instagram. Whatever family problems they may have, theygenuinely appear to be happy as they hang out in their Christmas pajamastogether. Since leavingThe Golden Bachelorette, Joan and Chock have been determined to be one big happy family. The holidays were a great start for the Vassos-Chapple gang, but it’s hard not to notice that Joan and Chock haven’t brought their families together since the holiday.

3Joan & Chock May Have Given Up On Blending

They’re Focused On Establishing Their Careers

Since leaving the show, Joan and Chock have shared their relationship milestones on social media, and fans have flocked to the newly engaged couple. Before joiningthe cast ofThe Golden BachelorandThe Golden Bachelorette,Joan was a private school administrator and Chock was an insurance executive. Since leaving the show, they’ve also been growing their social media followings as they become lifestyle influencers. Currently, Joan has 188K Instagram followers and Chock has 80K followers. It’s entirely possible that Joan and Chock have decided to focus on establishing their own relationship, and careers, before they bring their families along.

2Joan’s Children Didn’t Attend Her NYC Birthday

Joan’s second birthday took place in NYC, andThe Golden Bacheloretteseason 1 couple returned to the city they both love so much. Joan andChockposted Instagram photos from the trip. In several of the pictures, Joan and Chock pose with various friends, buttheir families aren’t in any of them. It looks like Chock missed Joan’s family event, while her family skipped her event with Chock. It could be coincidental, but it could also mean Joan and Chock still have a lot of work to do when it comes to bringing their families together.

Hopefully, once Joan and Chock have fully established their own relationship, the family stuff will naturally get easier.

Joan having two separate birthday parties could be nothing, but itcould also mean she and Chock are keeping their relationship away from their children. From the moment they got engaged duringThe Golden Bacheloretteseason 1, Joan and Chock have tried to blend their families. Hopefully, once Joan and Chock have fully established their own relationship, the family stuff will naturally get easier.

1Joan & Chock Are Putting Their Relationship First

Prioritizing Their Own Happiness

On an airplane, they always tell passengers to put their own oxygen masks on first, and that may be what Joan and Chock are doing. Since getting engaged onThe Golden Bacheloretteseason 1, Joan and Chock have tried to blend their families, but they’ve recently seemed to be more focused on their own relationship. This is the right move for the couple. Once their children see thatJoan and Chock’s relationship is working, they’ll naturally be more open to accepting their new stepparents.

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